A good death, like an easy experience of childbirth, is not something that happens to everybody, and it is impossible to predict who will slip away painlessly and at peace and who will find the process far harder.
“It’s a lottery,” says Ann Munro, a clinical ethicist who works with the dying and those who care for them in a large NHS hospital. “You never really know what it is going to be like.”
The top concern of the dying is that they do not want to be in pain – then that they do not want to be a burden and thirdly, that they do not want to be alone. The first and last of those are sometimes hard to achieve. More.